tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post1752655030178573175..comments2023-10-12T15:24:41.977+01:00Comments on The Unmumsy Mum: Lesson 19: What You're Not Allowed to Wish ForThe Unmumsy Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-73599457711557570932016-02-13T23:09:14.165+00:002016-02-13T23:09:14.165+00:00I have 2 boys and went through the same feelings a...I have 2 boys and went through the same feelings at our 20 wk scan, to the extent that I had to stop seeing some friends with baby girls as it became all about my self preservation. I would never change my gorgeous boys, it was more about mourning something that I would never (but was convinced I would) have. 3 years on my feelings have faded. It is so hard to find anything online about this issue, and when you do, you run the risk of being vilified by people who don't understand and can't empathise. Thank you for sharing, it was really brave thing to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-22496786523461261272015-04-10T21:29:46.428+01:002015-04-10T21:29:46.428+01:00We went through this twice. Found we were having t...We went through this twice. Found we were having twins, two girls to add to girl number one. Sadness for the son that would never be. And then at 33 weeks one baby revealed a penis! But then we were sad to have to say goodbye to a girl we had named and a future that had been, for weeks, 3 girls running along a beach etc. Altogether a very strange xperience To grieve for something that never was.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-20856491038712961022015-04-03T18:31:39.017+01:002015-04-03T18:31:39.017+01:00hear hear! when I found out our second was a girl,...hear hear! when I found out our second was a girl, I cried my bloomin' eyes out! I was SO sure it was a boy. and I wanted another boy. Now she's here wouldn't change a thing (but would willingly throttle both on regular occasions!). and count my blessings I have two healthy, great kids. there won't be a number three for us either. after my horrendous secons pregnancy. NO EFFIN' WAY!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-19130567360272025642015-03-29T09:32:27.339+01:002015-03-29T09:32:27.339+01:00I only found your blog recently so I am going back...I only found your blog recently so I am going back and reading the posts I missed (normally on my phone during the night feeds). Thank you so much for posting the reality of being a mum. This post in particular struck a chord with me. I have two daughters and I found out the sex of both at the 20 week scan. With my first I was delighted. I had always wanted a girl. With my second I hoped for a boy and when I got told I was expecting another daughter I felt really disappointed. I have NEVER admitted that to anyone, I didn't even put it in my diary for fear that someday it would get out. My second daughter is currently asleep on my arm in a milk coma and I love her to pieces. However, I think I'll always be a little sad that I will never have a son. This post made me realise other mums have felt the same way and I don't feel quite so guilty anymore.Heart2Arthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16791474257874157043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-3235039235339321222014-08-10T07:52:22.813+01:002014-08-10T07:52:22.813+01:00When I found out I was expecting, I longed for a g...When I found out I was expecting, I longed for a girl. Not because I didn't want a boy, but I wanted to buy girly dresses and arrange dancing classes and practice different hair styles. We found out the sex of our baby at our 20 week scan too and I was really disappointed to be carrying a baby boy. I hope to have a little girl in the future but I wouldn't change my son for the world. He's so awesome, intelligent and loving! X<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358188522983182645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-44926084272668570572014-05-02T08:58:58.327+01:002014-05-02T08:58:58.327+01:00I had my LP nearly three years ago and wasn't ...I had my LP nearly three years ago and wasn't fussed by what sex the baby would be. We had a girl and when I got pregnant again I wasn't fussed but a little part of me hoped for a boy. We had a boy and every so often I now get a pang wishing that LP had a Sister, feeling bad that, like me growing up, LP will never have a Sister. <br />I don't think we are ever 100% satisfied and I think we always want more. The way you feel is completely natural! xDonnahttp://redheadbabyled.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-58394481922898983502014-04-30T19:56:45.963+01:002014-04-30T19:56:45.963+01:00Thanks so much for commenting, so lovely to hear t...Thanks so much for commenting, so lovely to hear that I was not alone in my original reaction, and even better to hear how great things look in a year or so :-) The Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-74667697773447060722014-04-30T19:22:01.756+01:002014-04-30T19:22:01.756+01:00What you write is absolutely spot on - also cried ...What you write is absolutely spot on - also cried at 20wk scan to see a second boy but not for what he was, just a recognition that I wouldn't experience parenting a girl. No one ever has put it like that before and I was chewed up for a long time by guilty feelings. Thank you for your honest and insightful blog xx ps my second is a year old and I can't imagine my family having been any different now!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-33282252065145897612014-04-30T08:17:51.472+01:002014-04-30T08:17:51.472+01:00Thank you - you're spot on, that us exactly ho...Thank you - you're spot on, that us exactly how it has been. Thanks for reading :-) xThe Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-30908681184316370612014-04-30T07:06:18.235+01:002014-04-30T07:06:18.235+01:00Glad everything went well. I think it's ok to...Glad everything went well. I think it's ok to cry. It's not that you're ungrateful, it's that life suddenly has mapped itself out and you know what somewhat what the future looks like. (And what it won't look like) and that's a lot of information to deal with in a short about of time. Hope you're ok though xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15344931806224134121noreply@blogger.com