tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post4514706288015624383..comments2023-10-12T15:24:41.977+01:00Comments on The Unmumsy Mum: Lesson 2: Other Mums Must Be LyingThe Unmumsy Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-76772559936620040792016-12-13T16:21:41.374+00:002016-12-13T16:21:41.374+00:00My first child was fairly easy (did that sleeping ...My first child was fairly easy (did that sleeping all night thing) so I prob came across as the smug mum I'm afraid!! (Totally unintentional! ) However we have not had it easy with the 2nd child now 4 months. Nightmare! Can I transfer to the unkempt, top stained, shattered group please!! So glad to have found this blog. Think I'm gonna need it big time!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14506355279063387343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-72106028459817722132016-12-07T15:41:09.497+00:002016-12-07T15:41:09.497+00:00It's such a relief to have found your blog!It's such a relief to have found your blog! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07720805564491129338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-92154742210476589012016-03-14T09:42:52.281+00:002016-03-14T09:42:52.281+00:00its great.its great.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12420569670465119980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-39673339770703832052015-05-15T14:36:39.561+01:002015-05-15T14:36:39.561+01:00I had my baby in September 2013, I avoided the bab...I had my baby in September 2013, I avoided the baby groups with the "pretenders", I couldn't cope with the unwanted advice or gushing! I love your blog, I have only just come across it but it is so refreshing - you are doing something exceptionally wonderful with your words. Bless you xSukinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-19082066086157415082015-04-20T20:35:40.083+01:002015-04-20T20:35:40.083+01:00Thank you for your blog. I wish I'd found it w...Thank you for your blog. I wish I'd found it when I had my two. I use to hate baby groups. We're all mums, we should surely look out for one another. No, usually I find everyone is usually trying to outdo each other. I never went again. I was made to feel like I was doing it all wrong. Not what you want with your first childemmahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12697913870162476064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-87285045368333904422015-02-26T21:28:58.878+00:002015-02-26T21:28:58.878+00:00Why oh why haven't I found your blog sooner! I...Why oh why haven't I found your blog sooner! I've just spent the last 6 months being made to feel like a second-class-first-time-mum thanks to Mumsnet/Babycentre/askDrSears etc etc.... I have only recently found a mum who is brutally honest about the crapness of life with babies (even though her son is 5 months older than my daughter) but it's so refreshing to be able to speak honestly, and just say that I am feeling crap. And that I miss my old life, but I love my baby, and I'm so confused about everything that is to do with feeding/weaning/sleep (OMG the concept of self soothing was devised by the devil!! - my baby doesn't do it).<br /><br />I've been to baby groups where I left in tears because the mums made me feel so.... less than. It's horrific and I think it's appalling the way the 'baby industry' has created the mummy-monster so that unless you are a 'yummy mummy' that has it all together, you're doing a crap job. <br /><br />So thank you for your blog. I feel a little less shit now. And that's massive.Moraghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273897186183010016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-38665691513420495622014-12-31T17:59:43.703+00:002014-12-31T17:59:43.703+00:00Ahhh thanks so much for reading! You are definitel...Ahhh thanks so much for reading! You are definitely not alone - in my experience people are just dishonest!!! The Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-78831815843751194792014-12-31T09:18:35.649+00:002014-12-31T09:18:35.649+00:00Just read this for the first time after wiping up ...Just read this for the first time after wiping up yet another exploding poo from a (freshly laundered) gro-bag & it made me smile. Have yet to meet another 'unmumsy' as noone else Ive met at baby group seems to miss going to the bathroom in peace/sleeping/wearing clothes other than pyjamas for most of the day & I honestly thought I was the only one! Love baby with all my heart (goes without saying) but its great having your blog to read & know I'm not alone (in cyberspace anyway!) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-31716513083028286732014-03-22T08:03:47.152+00:002014-03-22T08:03:47.152+00:00Ha so true! It is so unhealthy to move in parentin...Ha so true! It is so unhealthy to move in parenting circles with 'The Pretenders' - I only wish I'd realised it sooner. Thanks for reading and for the RT :-)The Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-16352641994970016412014-03-22T07:36:43.675+00:002014-03-22T07:36:43.675+00:00Really enjoyed reading this. We have spent a lot o...Really enjoyed reading this. We have spent a lot of time defriending the many couples who paint tbis facade of parenting resembling prancing through meadows whilst wearing daisy chains. It is tough. Anyone else who says otherwise is lying administering crushed up co codomal to their child via thier milk. But that moment when they look up and smile at you or tell you that they love you makes it all worthwhile :-)Tom @Ideas4Dadshttp://www.ideas4dads.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-37974491657726339822013-07-20T22:58:00.853+01:002013-07-20T22:58:00.853+01:00God me too. We had an awful first few months due t...God me too. We had an awful first few months due to the reflux - all previously concocted images of tranquility went out the window about 72 hours after the birth! Trouble is, people just don't seem to say 'oh my god isn't this terrible', though I'm sure everyone thinks it. Secretly. And if they don't I like to think they do :-) Thanks for readingThe Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-34292536272258581982013-07-20T22:51:42.150+01:002013-07-20T22:51:42.150+01:00I spent my entire pregnancy convinced I'd turn...I spent my entire pregnancy convinced I'd turn into Mary F***ing Poppins once my first baby arrived. I'd suddenly love baking cupcakes (I've never been a good cook) and want to make loads of crafty-type things (I'm shite at anything arty). When my boy arrived, I loved him so much, but I wished he'd just SHUT UP AND LET ME SLEEP!!!!<br />I felt sweaty and jet-lagged all the time. He had reflux so I was regularly covered in milky puke and my husband failed to see my panic as any more than hormonal bitchiness.<br />My friend, meanwhile, had a child who went to bed at 6pm and slept through til 8am EVERY NIGHT (or maybe she was lying, I never found out). For every mum who's not coping, there's always some smug cow telling you how easy it is for her.Donna@MummyCentralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13685962615592895589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-85641196011841655042013-07-20T22:22:56.444+01:002013-07-20T22:22:56.444+01:00You're so right. And yes, always slightly wary...You're so right. And yes, always slightly wary of the 'polished' mums. They either have impeccably behaved children or it is a front. Or I am not coping...we'll go with them bending the truth slightly I think :-) Glad you liked it, not blogged before but finding surprisingly therapeutic! The Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-87415490263131219242013-07-20T22:14:49.218+01:002013-07-20T22:14:49.218+01:00God yes! We all need friends like her!!! It isn...God yes! We all need friends like her!!! It isn't all shits and giggles, I fear those women who all look immaculate as I walk around with my vomit or snot stained top! I think some women put on a front and some and I mean a small minority, find it easy. You can have all the patience in the world but a small child will break you! Lol I have a friend who was going throu PND but it wasn't until I told her that I was going through it too, that she admitted and came to terms with it. Great post! Loving the honesty and normality!The kitchen Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05900286426110415265noreply@blogger.com