tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post467906235613261767..comments2023-10-12T15:24:41.977+01:00Comments on The Unmumsy Mum: Sometimes That'll Do is All You've GotThe Unmumsy Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-28331721555258468122015-11-02T19:09:28.891+00:002015-11-02T19:09:28.891+00:00Do you know I've nearly really thought of it l...Do you know I've nearly really thought of it like that but you are quite right! Thanks Tim, I shall remember that next time I'm having a Not-Good-But-Good-Enough day :-) xThe Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-55920517473581888752015-11-02T12:16:21.457+00:002015-11-02T12:16:21.457+00:00Well this just started me bawling at my desk, now ...Well this just started me bawling at my desk, now my colleague thinks i'm a nutter. :) So true though, just hard to remember sometimes. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-16144095556223519252015-11-01T01:06:52.703+00:002015-11-01T01:06:52.703+00:00I know what you mean, although in a lot of ways I ...I know what you mean, although in a lot of ways I think it's a valuable lesson for our kids to learn that sometimes it's okay to settle for 'good enough' and not strive for the impossibility of perfection in everything we do. That's my excuse, anyway, and I'm sticking with it ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-75227313932767212072015-10-31T09:23:13.525+00:002015-10-31T09:23:13.525+00:00Unfortunately my husband does not subscribe to thi...Unfortunately my husband does not subscribe to this...and asks me from time to time on arriving home 'what time did you wake up' or 'what did you do this morning' on seeing that the dishes are still unwashed etc. SAHM is a weird kind of job...and breastfeeding a 7 month old still seems to sap the energy out of me. I wish he understood that nap time for baby doesn't necessarily mean house work time for mommy! I more often plop myself onto the couch...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-65070012842816696432015-10-24T23:53:47.034+01:002015-10-24T23:53:47.034+01:00Another excellent post, Unmumsy Mum, very true.
I...Another excellent post, Unmumsy Mum, very true. <br />It occured to me that most, if not all of the time, it is just *me* putting huge pressure on myself to be this fun, playful mum, mega-organised, cooking varied meals, excelling at work. The reality instead is often CBeebies, always in a rush (and usually late), pasta/ toast again, and at work, well I really do try. <br /><br />I was trying so hard until recently I came to a breaking point (nervous breakdown point). I realised life's really too short - things do not need to be perfect (still dealing with this one). I let it go, and simply try to enjoy my son, husband and life for who and what they are. Guess it's all about changing high expectations to reasonable. Wet-wipe cleaning, pasta, CBBs, what's unreasonable about that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-74885208154607820222015-10-24T06:23:40.390+01:002015-10-24T06:23:40.390+01:00Another great post. It is so true. I thought I'...Another great post. It is so true. I thought I'd boss it too, then reality struck! I have also got used to a shit tip house. Sometimes I even class playing in the garden as activity when I can't muster up the energy for the park! Lucy@bottlefor2Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11084342479338716621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-14541697551563999312015-10-23T22:01:18.171+01:002015-10-23T22:01:18.171+01:00Oh yes there has been a lot of that'll do in m...Oh yes there has been a lot of that'll do in my life lately, standards definitely slip don't they when you just don't have the time - or energy! x Julia @ RainbeaubelleAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08865104576562908232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-54126310392664942332015-10-23T16:13:12.669+01:002015-10-23T16:13:12.669+01:00Food under one is just for fun!! Don't worry, ...Food under one is just for fun!! Don't worry, you're doing brilliantly! Our Daught is almost 3 and sometimes has days where she says almost nothing, and other days when she will wolf down anything that is put in front of her, including stuff she finds under the sofa....just relax, they'll eat when they're hungry and remember that their tummies are tiny so it may not seem like they have eaten much but its probably enough for them :-) Laurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01775884403821146903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-91646423663272541052015-10-23T15:29:50.994+01:002015-10-23T15:29:50.994+01:00As a mum of 4 under 7 I'm a 'well it's...As a mum of 4 under 7 I'm a 'well it's better than it was' mummy! we're all doing grand! Easy does it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-48900215437370152342015-10-23T14:56:22.234+01:002015-10-23T14:56:22.234+01:00Having it all and doing it all are two separate th...Having it all and doing it all are two separate things. There has and always will be chores and errands and pressure to be perfect. But your children will grow up and fly the nest so I try and choose to enjoy my baby instead of stressing over the other stuff. Don't try so hard, that'll do translates to that's enough in a child's view :) <br /><br />http://mebeingmummy.blogspot.co.uk/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13957115785600567238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-62367126984244145572015-10-23T12:29:20.665+01:002015-10-23T12:29:20.665+01:00I didn't realise how much I needed someone to ...I didn't realise how much I needed someone to say all that until I read it and started to weep! Lol. And I read in the comments that someone else cried so that's 2 lots of "not just me" today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-18272778344299311242015-10-23T10:45:41.110+01:002015-10-23T10:45:41.110+01:00I remember the stress with my daughter. Some days...I remember the stress with my daughter. Some days it was one spoon of food othere days the whole bowl. What helped me was my health visitor reminding me that food for under 1s is an exercise in play and learning. They still get most of their nutrition from theit milk. Try not to stress and think of it as messy play if it helps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-78469129041993596212015-10-23T09:59:38.038+01:002015-10-23T09:59:38.038+01:00It's not possible to do everything, so choose ...It's not possible to do everything, so choose what's important. Time with your children. When my first was little I didn't have a washing machine, a dishwasher, a microwave. How did I do it? I have no idea! There was always dishes and washing and cold tea. Now with my grandson it's the same, I have all those things but I'm still surrounded by dishes and mess and cold tea. Nothing changes xxBear and Cardiganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828270309563096463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-33803421631655337382015-10-23T09:56:09.385+01:002015-10-23T09:56:09.385+01:00lovely louise and so true! a lot more parents shou...lovely louise and so true! a lot more parents should be doing exactly what you've posted xxxemma molyneauxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-31174508810805617462015-10-23T09:22:44.286+01:002015-10-23T09:22:44.286+01:00I needed to read this today for my own sanity so a...I needed to read this today for my own sanity so a BIG Thankyou I've been doing a lot of plodding just lately and have totally been beating myself up about it but I just need to let go and accept that it's ok, it's ok to be exhausted and put on another disney DVD, it's ok to cook pasta again cause I'm exhausted and just want to get to bedtime asap it's ok that my biggest achievement for the day is managing to get a shower and keep the little people alive :-) so from one very exhausted self doubting mummy of three kiddies 4 and under with my eldest being disabled THANKYOU for being my voice of reason :-) ps can't wait to read the book xx Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01559241855231066882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-43943222600240540292015-10-23T09:04:33.057+01:002015-10-23T09:04:33.057+01:00If your children smile, then you're doing well...If your children smile, then you're doing well enough.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11267831179567369723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-63462599889047340222015-10-23T08:33:09.493+01:002015-10-23T08:33:09.493+01:00Don't worry about a lack of routine with eatin...Don't worry about a lack of routine with eating, I've never bothered with one. I've tried a couple of times (usually in response to people telling me that I should be doing it!) and it always just stressed me out. My son is just over 10 months now and eats anything put in front of him but I swear he eats at a different time each day and sometimes has fruit and those baby crisp things for dinner when I've been disorganised. He weighs a tonne though so I figure he's fine!! Good luck. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-29116139752223218952015-10-23T08:22:12.843+01:002015-10-23T08:22:12.843+01:00Parenting ''Abandon all control all who en...Parenting ''Abandon all control all who enter here''... definitely! I have found, during my nine years of continuous parenting first one, then two and now three little boys, that just as in all other areas of life, we all have things we do well, and others we do ''not as well'' (or are unremittingly terrible at). For example, I love to bake. Little Miss Perfection... if you go by my banana bread... so lovely... I am a hideously impatient homework-doer. I am truly ashamed at how mean I can be due to impatience. How vile am I? It's swings and roundabouts and we work on the not-great stuff, slowly and gradually, and we get there in the end. If not, the kid does his homework without my getting involved but gets a lovely slice of banana bread after... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-8977063697454633842015-10-23T07:42:13.459+01:002015-10-23T07:42:13.459+01:00Love this post - so so true. I always imagined mys...Love this post - so so true. I always imagined myself being a super yummy mummy and baking cupcakes and dressing my son and I in co-ordinating outfits. As it turns out that isn't possible and sometimes wearing your pyjamas all day and letting your 6 month old baby play with your iPhone is the only way forward! Thanks for writing this post, makes me feel a little bit better about my mummy efforts! XxxNearlyyummymummyhttp://nearlyyummymummy.blogspot.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-61882734588063970312015-10-23T03:20:43.083+01:002015-10-23T03:20:43.083+01:00I won't admit this to just anyone, but I crumb...I won't admit this to just anyone, but I crumble at the first signs of uncertainty and feeling out of my depth. I thought I was coping fairly well and had my day, and my baby's day, sussed at about five months... Then weaning started. Ermahgerd - how hard is that shit? My baby (now just turned one) has a fairly good appetite, but the uncertainty around when they should feed, how much they should feed, how regularly - gah! But I really did learn that no-one else knows what to do either - just trust yourself, and your baby, and it actually does work itself out. Bloody hard getting there though, and infinitely harder if you're working with a baby who just. won't. eat... <br />Good luck, and to quote my favourite greeting card 'you're doing a fucking great job' (excuse the profanity - hope it doesn't offend!) xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-40028272433600407262015-10-22T23:53:00.658+01:002015-10-22T23:53:00.658+01:00And as a therapist and new mum to a 3 month old I ...And as a therapist and new mum to a 3 month old I couldn't agree more, not only is good enough good enough, it is the best - much better than trying to be perfect because it's impossible. And anyway kids don't respond to perfection - nor learn anything from it! Just love them (and feed them occasionally, that helps) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-68049324479870165102015-10-22T23:44:14.047+01:002015-10-22T23:44:14.047+01:00I found weaning the singular most stressful poi...I found weaning the singular most stressful point so far. I have never had such doubt.eventually I thought to hell with it let's just roll with it.<br />18 montha now and loves his grub and on the days he doesn't he just gets bread rolls and jam. <br />Keep going.trust me ur doing fine.they love throwing spoons at u at this stage. I know this for a fact bcos in a face book memory today I was commenting about him firing spoons at me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-82743462428141605022015-10-22T23:36:14.364+01:002015-10-22T23:36:14.364+01:00Never have I needed to hear this so much.have an ...Never have I needed to hear this so much.have an unruly toddler refusing to sleep at minute. It's been a week of that'll do.I hoovered around his toys on Sunday and I've just removed the last remaining meal from freezer tonight. Our boot is jam packed and my husband needs car and empty boot at 6.30 in morning. <br />It's not even that'll do at this stage.it's who bloody cares..<br />Roll on sat when I'm not even planning on getting dressed. Thank you unmumsy mum. As always you've tapped in to the mood perfectly. <br />PS I too was a straight A student got my degree and masters whilst working.good job I did masters pre terror toddler bcos it would never happen now.<br />I'm actually v at peace with who bloody cares mostly. Apart from waking at night to apparently chat to us I've a gorgeous funny little guy in my life who makes me laugh all the time. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-81746808882227769632015-10-22T23:08:10.047+01:002015-10-22T23:08:10.047+01:00These comments make me feel so sad. I remember th...These comments make me feel so sad. I remember these feelings as if they were yday. The uncertainty, the lack of self-belief, the pressure society and media place on us. Take a deep breath ladies. Place a hand on your tummy. You created life. You care for it as best as you can every day. Your children love you. They dont care the house is a mess. They want you. And you will always be enough. But please give yourselves permission to be enough. Be kind to yourselves. With love xxLouise Bricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18168065314436211898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-13652709504259132452015-10-22T23:06:01.073+01:002015-10-22T23:06:01.073+01:00So so true. My little one is 3 months and every n...So so true. My little one is 3 months and every night I think, right, tomorrow we'll do better, get out, clean, tidy and eat healthily. In reality its never like that!! But my other half tells me hey, just chill out and enjoy the time you have off, it won't last forever and soon she won't be a baby any more. So true, I constantly worry about work, what I'm going to do next, tidying the house, loosing weight, and for what? A happy baby and just 'doing' is much more important. She doesn't care about the state of the house as long as she's feed and loved that's all that matters. And I can manage that.....just!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com