tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post994423576471348825..comments2023-10-12T15:24:41.977+01:00Comments on The Unmumsy Mum: An Open Letter to The Mum with the Red CoatThe Unmumsy Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comBlogger72125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-65816546402961882602016-11-01T13:57:30.593+00:002016-11-01T13:57:30.593+00:00I was directed to this post by: Best Dad I can Be,...I was directed to this post by: Best Dad I can Be, who has referenced it in his blog: Peeing in the Ball Pool. I love it and have shared it, because I think it will make so many other mums feel a whole lot better today. Alison Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15730606464547691791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-19309520613806213032015-12-09T09:15:13.859+00:002015-12-09T09:15:13.859+00:00Just found this blog and it perfectly sums up actu...Just found this blog and it perfectly sums up actual parenthood lol iv got a 33 month old who surprises, infuriates and challenges me daily. Definitely been the mum in the park with him throwing a tantrum because I wouldn't carry him (he's bloody heavy) and my don't give a fuck attitude to the unintended audience generally works well, I just calmly explain why I'm not pandering to his every whim and get on with what I'm doing lol works pretty well but it really annoys the hell out of me when I have other people (total strangers) telling him to behave with stupid phrases like "big boys don't cry " and "you'll go on the naughty list and won't get any presents from Santa" I might not be your idea of a good parent but don't parent my child for me! I can definitely understand the need to reassure and support. Will definitely spread the word to my mummy friends. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175333107975693714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-36274977892535933562015-11-11T14:27:48.021+00:002015-11-11T14:27:48.021+00:00This makes me smile because I too had the child fr...This makes me smile because I too had the child from hell. In fact my favourite saying to him was " I will always love you but at the moment I don't like you very much" And don't believe anyone who tells you it gets better because they lie. It does not get better the challenges just change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-70370437474768308442015-10-03T18:44:21.268+01:002015-10-03T18:44:21.268+01:00My extremely wilful now 6 year old then 16mths and...My extremely wilful now 6 year old then 16mths and I used to go to a mini gymnastics session weekly while her baby brother slept in the car seat-one exhausting morning baby was awful (clearly I was a bad mommy I see this now-not) screaming while toddler was engaging with the balance beam alone-absolutely fine but all the other mums were watching and commenting to each other re her doing things alone- the organiser stepped in to 'help' toddler who threw major hissy fit-baby and I went to sort baby barfed everywhere we were offered a refund and told to find another hobby more suitable to my angel!!! I was so upset for so long I would have loved just one mum to give that look!! <br />4 years on said angel still a cow a lot of the time but trains 4 hrs a week to be a competitive gymnast and STILL takesno help on the beam....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-75910547291902952612015-09-29T18:33:05.323+01:002015-09-29T18:33:05.323+01:00Hi Adrian, do you think you could email me (theunm...Hi Adrian, do you think you could email me (theunmumsymum@gmail.com) as I might like to use part of your above comment in my book (if you don't mind of course!!) Thanks.The Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-84235165058097522712015-09-29T18:29:32.057+01:002015-09-29T18:29:32.057+01:00Hello mummymarbles do you think you could email me...Hello mummymarbles do you think you could email me (theunmumsymum@gmail.com) as I'd quite like to use your comment as a quote for my book (if you don't mind that is!) Thanks xThe Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-41174993989245980762015-08-28T14:09:11.691+01:002015-08-28T14:09:11.691+01:00YES! Too many people gloat about their (fake) happ...YES! Too many people gloat about their (fake) happy lives only the unmumsy mum tells it how it is FACT!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11532049172552201309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-39555810545870861912015-07-30T23:10:36.494+01:002015-07-30T23:10:36.494+01:00So wish you'd been around when mine were tiny....So wish you'd been around when mine were tiny... I've been lady in red coat so many times! We need to support one another, let's support each other... Thank you x x xCharlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17521457436586340604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-53800822194771657482015-07-26T22:14:22.038+01:002015-07-26T22:14:22.038+01:00Parenthood 'the years are short but the days a...Parenthood 'the years are short but the days are long' - you need a day off to appreciate it!GemmaLouisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05284846380706383384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-1869475841300440242015-06-19T20:34:28.325+01:002015-06-19T20:34:28.325+01:00I'm a mum of 2 older boys who has never felt l...I'm a mum of 2 older boys who has never felt like the perfect mum amongst a raft of Mumsy mums in our village. <br />I used to be ashamed of the tantrums my youngest used to have on the way home from school run and the way my eldest didn't mind blatantly pointing out the obvious stand-out things about complete strangers. (Excessively sweaty man/big nose/bald head.....you know the type)<br />I learned to get used to them and ignore the disapproving looks and actually realised that other people's children were also shits! (Even if their parents had not noticed) <br />This made me feel a lot less like a rubbish parent and sympathised with those mums at the park who's child had decided to slap every little one in sight and run away! <br />I have been that mum in a red coat (I actually do have one) and I've been there when that mum wanted the ground to open up! <br />I love the way you make it normal, and know just how she feels. So reassuring! Thank you. XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01216204268093476653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-85015370088703028362015-06-19T20:23:00.817+01:002015-06-19T20:23:00.817+01:00Actually had a proper lol at that! Made my might!!...Actually had a proper lol at that! Made my might!! HeheAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01216204268093476653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-21109798494303677272015-06-17T00:28:04.620+01:002015-06-17T00:28:04.620+01:00One teething child who screams and screams all the...One teething child who screams and screams all the way around the weekly asda shop today. After a few minutes I just pushed the trolley away n asked the wife if we could ask at customer service desk if we can return him??? Your blogs are fab. We both love reading them and seeing someone tell it like it is instead of Facebook users blah blah blahing like everything is perfect. I've even asked to sleep in the shed before just for a peaceful sleep.. denied obviously, if I'm not there then who wilt he wife warm her feet on? Paul moll.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-41507610263366397332015-06-14T19:49:59.594+01:002015-06-14T19:49:59.594+01:00That comment probably made all the difference to h...That comment probably made all the difference to her awful day. The last time someone made that kind of comment when I was having a nightmare it almost made me cry on the spot, I was so grateful for the solidarity. We should all do this more often! Chloenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-25796010879073444452015-06-14T19:33:17.328+01:002015-06-14T19:33:17.328+01:00Thanks lovely, I've had a FAIL day today!! XxThanks lovely, I've had a FAIL day today!! XxThe Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-59708223889076264412015-06-14T19:31:38.654+01:002015-06-14T19:31:38.654+01:00It is bloody hard - to be honest today has been a ...It is bloody hard - to be honest today has been a particularly testing one!!! Thank you for reading, appreciate it xThe Unmumsy Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-43497471784065112012015-06-14T13:40:02.963+01:002015-06-14T13:40:02.963+01:00This post has made me well up because you get it a...This post has made me well up because you get it and we need it, the reality of how bloody hard it can be some days, thank you xHonest mumhttp://www.honestmum.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-48163550251736977992015-06-13T17:01:32.296+01:002015-06-13T17:01:32.296+01:00Such a great post - we have all too many of these ...Such a great post - we have all too many of these 'fail' days and this is defintely one to bookmark for when it happens! It's great to hear a blogger tell it like it is. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-67378478780231303072015-06-13T14:14:22.071+01:002015-06-13T14:14:22.071+01:00Nicely put, exactly what I wanted to say. hahaNicely put, exactly what I wanted to say. hahaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409133919824071053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-88797413929493295182015-05-15T05:02:56.820+01:002015-05-15T05:02:56.820+01:00I second that!I second that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-49120525876816148912015-04-14T23:12:31.070+01:002015-04-14T23:12:31.070+01:00My friend has just sent me a link to your blog, ma...My friend has just sent me a link to your blog, mainly as today I spent 20 minutes ranting about how my little girl kicked off just one of her brand new clarks shoes that cost me 20 quid (just the bloody one mind!!!) only the day before, people at work that I used to socialise with gave me that look.. You know, the one that shows your encounter of the day before isn't half as funny exciting or adventurous as theirs. Anyway, I read this and it made me cry a little, not because of the massive glass of red wine I had earlier but because I spend so much time trying to be a perfect mum that I forget there are thousands of us all in iggle piggle's shitty little sailing boat. Protests from my tiddlers dad to get her into the car because people are "looking"... Thank you, you've reminded me they aren't looking in disgust at my rubbish parenting skills. Well on that note I need to go, I've been hiding in the loo and my angel has found me and has run off with the last 4 squares of loo roll which she is trying to eat. Thank you for making me cry and smile at the same time. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-74137846736979805052015-04-14T21:21:58.870+01:002015-04-14T21:21:58.870+01:00Parenthood is the most wonderful and also one of t...Parenthood is the most wonderful and also one of the hardest jobs. It is not a Hallmark card. You are spot on Anonymous. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-16275422367842428092015-04-13T09:15:29.496+01:002015-04-13T09:15:29.496+01:00I do love your blog, as a mum of two boys as well ...I do love your blog, as a mum of two boys as well it is so refreshing to read a realistic account of parenting. A while ago I was walking to work and there was a man attempting to get an uncooperative toddler to nursery but she decided to fling herself on the floor in front of me, he apologised profusely to which I just replied "please don't worry, i have a 3 yr old at home". No more needed to be said, he just gave such a relieved smile at this shared understanding & i could see a new strength in him as he continued his battle. Sometimes it just needs a few words to make all the differenceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-25552007395661869202015-04-12T23:37:47.471+01:002015-04-12T23:37:47.471+01:00Yes maybe it does (slips through the fingers), how...Yes maybe it does (slips through the fingers), however 24/7 is hard work and draining, tiring to the fact that you are too tired to even keep those memories locked in your mind. Kids are precious and awesome and an amazing gift. No one could love their kids more than a parent, but just ONE day could make all the difference as it really isn't easy, you wouldn't believe how much more appreciation can happen BOTH ways from a parents RARE day off. The parent feels refreshed, misses their child, and in fact probably chats about their children most of the day! The child realises that life isn't that much fun without mum/dad etc, and is full of hugs, kisses and loving on the return. Sometimes it makes all the difference to be the one who is missed, and shown even more how much you are loved. A RARE day out is allowed, parenting if you are lucky is a partnership, of which a chance to be 'me' once is a while is priceless and appreciated. No one should be made to feel bad about that, because that can make all the difference to the months ahead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-45524024106521961082015-04-12T20:09:33.665+01:002015-04-12T20:09:33.665+01:00Childhood slips like sand through a sieve. Why are...Childhood slips like sand through a sieve. Why are so many people desperate to get rid of their kids for the day.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00504009318222610523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-67082752616781103842015-04-12T17:19:57.122+01:002015-04-12T17:19:57.122+01:00I don't think anyone should be blamed here par...I don't think anyone should be blamed here parents or the teachers (as having been a teacher it is not always possible to engage EVERY child in everything you teach as everyone is different something could be engaging for me and not the next person so you can't blame the teachers for not being engaging enough as teachers put in a lot of work and have many standards to maintain I'm sure there are 'bad' teachers out there but its not that simple) as many have said children are children at the end of the day with the best of parents and teachers they still have their moments. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com