tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post2816756259502251247..comments2023-10-12T15:24:41.977+01:00Comments on The Unmumsy Mum: The Unnecessary Pressure of ChristmasThe Unmumsy Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04094380010913263266noreply@blogger.comBlogger173125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-48787372030730139612017-04-27T14:46:35.409+01:002017-04-27T14:46:35.409+01:00We are all forgetting what Christmass is all about...We are all forgetting what Christmass is all about. I was inspired by my best friend’s reverse Christmas morning. She woke up at 3:30am, drove to thirty minutes to Nashville, Tennessee, USA, and cooked thousands of eggs for the homeless. Then she was back home by 10:30 in time for her own celebrations. It’s become a tradition for her and her husband to do this every Christmas and Easter, really allowing those to be days of service to others. I know other friends who purchase presents for children in need and hand deliver them on Christmas day.Marko @ Parent Support Hubhttp://parentsupporthub.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-30087810334699541852017-01-13T21:14:46.175+00:002017-01-13T21:14:46.175+00:00Christmas is a time to be with your family, never ...Christmas is a time to be with your family, never mind about the class of present or how much you spend on whom. Love your attitude to it all - keep it up :)Doona Car Seathttp://www.cuddlecoshop.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-16899936239912586582017-01-04T10:59:18.624+00:002017-01-04T10:59:18.624+00:00My favourite thing about your post was the photo o...My favourite thing about your post was the photo of the Christmas tree. For some reason, it really struck a chord and made me yearn for the Christmas we used to have as kids (I'm Brit but living in Australia. Think I might be a bit homesick.....) I'm 36 with my own 14 month little boy now, but I hope he gets as excited about the simple things as we did. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04970101092991700988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-77848598621273127162016-12-30T08:38:47.581+00:002016-12-30T08:38:47.581+00:00I made the crafty advent calendar! On the days tha...I made the crafty advent calendar! On the days that I had planned to do stuff I lied and told them it said "watch Frozen" so we have watched Frozen approximately 1,000,000 times now. <br /><br />I bought the Christmas Eve box, complete with personalised ceramic plate and new Christmas PJs. We used the PJs about two weeks before because they had no clean ones. We did leave out the plate for Santa, one of the toddlers drank the milk and the other one hit him. <br /><br />I bought an Elf on the Shelf! I forgot where I'd left the little bastard until December 20th. I left him hanging from a picture then forgot to move him and indeed forgot to even mention him to the kids. <br /><br />No child ate Christmas dinner. They all wanted biscuits. Biscuits, incidentally, that we had bought for someone else. Nothing like getting into bed and pulling a Party Ring out from between the crack of your arse. <br /><br />Also, we were all sick for Christmas so all the presents I spent ages ordering online (I've toddler twins, I don't do shops) - all thrown to one side in favour of blankets and fucking Frozen AGAIN. Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809692683188179587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-35289418016704538032016-12-26T13:44:46.427+00:002016-12-26T13:44:46.427+00:00That's great love it xThat's great love it x Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-37680290962556820232016-12-25T09:52:17.738+00:002016-12-25T09:52:17.738+00:00Thank you 'Ruth!' I never usually like to ...Thank you 'Ruth!' I never usually like to read the grammatically incorrect ramblings of someone with a huge chip on their shoulder, but today it's made me feel great! Always awesome to have a reminder of what life could be like if I was eaten up with envy and resentment.. and realise that in not giving a fuck about what bitter people like you think, I'm one happy Mama! I'd recommend counselling sweetheart, as you can bake as many cookies as you like, but nothing will hide that poisonous attitude from your child. I'm sure they would prefer a couple of plastic toys under the tree than a genuinely bad example of humankind for a mother. Merry Christmas!Catherinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-6164671528680692472016-12-25T08:02:59.623+00:002016-12-25T08:02:59.623+00:00Well here I am with most stuff bought from £1 shop...Well here I am with most stuff bought from £1 shops, wilko's or ASDA. My decs came from £1 shop not because I cant afford to go elsewhere but why would I pay £5 a bauble when I can get a pack of 30 for £10 in The Range!! More money to spend on family especially my little girl (5m this yr) oh shit no we bought her just a couple of present because she has no clue & we have a shit tonne of presents taking up half the lounge from friends and family!!! Christmas theme what a joke! Its all about being tacky and hanging random and odd things on the tree and the ceiling!! These mums would prob be offended by the sheer volume of sweets we have (3 bag for lifes full woops) we are catering for 11 for 2 whole days after all! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-36641030639857217112016-12-25T07:39:20.630+00:002016-12-25T07:39:20.630+00:00Sat here hiding in the toilet for 5 mins peace on ...Sat here hiding in the toilet for 5 mins peace on Christmas Day 😂😂 kids been up since 4am.. but then I suppose any perfect mother would have sent them back to bed so they got their full 8 hours instead of allowing them to rip into Christmas presents (and oh lord please forgive me) munching their way through selection boxes to breakfast.. yet somehow we survived this habitual routine year in year out.. so the fact they have lived till Boxing after this awful parenting for the last 9 years speaks for itself! I hope your perfect child enjoys their perfect Christmas which I have no doubt will be anally organised.. on that not I have a glass of wine some sausage rolls and a lot of chaos to return to...<br />Merry Christmas to all the other "unperfect" mums out there Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-54238237538651881362016-12-25T01:00:14.366+00:002016-12-25T01:00:14.366+00:00Thank you, yes a very supportive family and group ...Thank you, yes a very supportive family and group of friends. Finally in the Xmas spirit in time for the big man to arrive xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-7649043496446264202016-12-24T23:02:21.750+00:002016-12-24T23:02:21.750+00:00Merry Christmas everyone let's just get on and...Merry Christmas everyone let's just get on and enjoy what we have ��⭐��⭐��Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819753905354227958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-81580985279001599562016-12-24T21:12:38.658+00:002016-12-24T21:12:38.658+00:00Ruth likes to ride monochrome rabbits, fra la lala...Ruth likes to ride monochrome rabbits, fra la lala la lala la .....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-50203398442298032612016-12-24T21:11:21.297+00:002016-12-24T21:11:21.297+00:00Dear Ruth,
Whilst you sit there frolicking aroun...Dear Ruth,<br /> Whilst you sit there frolicking around your monochrome decorations, baking ginger bread cookies (which I suppose tastes like heaven as you are the perfect mother), tucking your sweet little angel into bed, singing Christmas songs and totally not losing your shit. I sit here, with a kidney infection, listening to my three little boys (the fuck was I thinking having three kids?) shouting 'I need a wee!, when's Santa coming mummy?! we want our presents' okay, well one can't really talk and is actually asleep (so is my current favourite)I'm rushing back and forth to the toilet, exhausted, and having to prep Christmas dinner and wait for my two gremlins to fall asleep. Whilst their father (my partner, I know right Ruth, three kids with same man, I must be getting brownie points there right???) keeps yelling 'Go to bed! Santa won't come if you don't sleep!', I'm too much of a lazy mother that I'm sat by the laptop replying to your comment. I would like to know how you came across this blog? were you looking for advice? was your child being a right little shit head to the point you felt like a failure and wanted to check if that was completely normal way to feel? (of course not Ruth, you are the perfect mother, pull your shit together woman!) I know I should really shift my arse to get stuff sorted for tomorrow, but I'm being selfish, I'm having me time. (what can I say? I'm a lazy horrid mother) I shall raise a glass to you - Ruth, the perfect mother that I'll never ever be. Oh Ruth, you can shove your monochrome up your beaver by the way, you seem like you have some sexual frustration there, or do perfect mothers not even find alone time to pleasure one self? lets be honest, men can't always hit that right spot.Thats enough wine for me...From, Amy - that mother who always seems chilled but is really losing her shit, Amy is a lazy mum, who works, and uses the tv sometimes to babysit her children, don't be like Amy, Be like Ruth.<br /><br />P.S I'm sure Ann Summers do Rabbits in monochrome.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-17676781454905465252016-12-24T21:00:41.611+00:002016-12-24T21:00:41.611+00:00Poor Ruth. That much unhappiness is very sad indee...Poor Ruth. That much unhappiness is very sad indeed. What a shame for her and her family that she is so bitter and unhappy, and so angry she forgot some spaces and appropriate spelling. I hope there is a lovely friendly woman somewhere who can give her kids a bit of joy and delight and understanding, that they see occasionally to realise what life is about. " mummy's angry again," they'll whisper. "Crying again, unhappy again, reading the internet again".......H. Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09108557920717798858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-39605996565122409712016-12-24T20:48:45.803+00:002016-12-24T20:48:45.803+00:00I don't get the Christmas eve box thing either...I don't get the Christmas eve box thing either and as my son ius shit of a strange man coming into his room at night, Santa leaves presents in the living room so won't see his PJs or notice that they atre Lego ones which aren't coordinated with me or his brotherAnalyticalHelenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02798358347923982826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-71340996076200424952016-12-24T19:37:21.888+00:002016-12-24T19:37:21.888+00:00My tree is leaning to one side and looks like a 5 ...My tree is leaning to one side and looks like a 5 year old did it (he did to be fair, but I helped). We also had a terrible mix-up and didn't make it to see santa this year. But I love the bones of my boy and Christmas is going to be awesome. And I am so glad I'm not that nasty Ruth lady who makes her kids live in a monochrome house. She'd have an actual fit if she saw the mess in my living room.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12128401253156630419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-83732393275717701592016-12-24T18:53:33.902+00:002016-12-24T18:53:33.902+00:00I love it how you post and reply as 'anonymous...I love it how you post and reply as 'anonymous'. If you feel so strongly about and feel you have the moral high ground over all the other readers/posters that you've read here, I wonder why you feel the need to hide? I think you maybe missed the message of the original post - everyone should enjoy their own Christmas and not feel the pressure of an often unattainable ideal. What a shame that you have done exactly what you criticised the post for doing - telling everyone that your way is right and the 'other ways' are wrong. Everyone celebrates Christmas in their own way. Perhaps you should get on with obsessing over monochroming your life, allow your children to be colourful and the rest of us will hope that they turn out nothing like you.Lindsaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-64237274499936986692016-12-24T18:22:21.354+00:002016-12-24T18:22:21.354+00:00And don't bother replying to this, I know you ...And don't bother replying to this, I know you have all the time in the world, but I don'thave time to read unmumsy nonsense, too busy being a loving caring involved proper mum! <<< but still came back 6 hours later to have another little moan. Dear oh dear. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00087696152092208476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-757319704505176312016-12-24T18:09:02.651+00:002016-12-24T18:09:02.651+00:00And yet, even with all the perfectness of your mon...And yet, even with all the perfectness of your monochrome, more than one sitting room life, you're still miserable. <br />It's almost as though money and instagram likes don't buy happiness isn't it? Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15828890332848682342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-73334470582671239152016-12-24T17:35:39.408+00:002016-12-24T17:35:39.408+00:00The Unmumsy Mum blog has kept me going through Pos...The Unmumsy Mum blog has kept me going through Post natal depression and Post natal anxiety. Ive gone from not wanting to be here any more to being able to leave the house and start a career.<br />What have YOU done to help people?<br />Shes funny, kind, witty and deserves every ounce of good fortune in her life she gets. <br />You do realise that these comments each have an IP address attached to them and your location is on there, so youre not actually anonymous? Lol. <br />Go suck on eggs ya daft wee cow. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-18044366819234866512016-12-24T16:34:08.718+00:002016-12-24T16:34:08.718+00:00I hope you have all the support you need to make t...I hope you have all the support you need to make this decision x lmlchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08351271511148855206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-25660083052141250552016-12-24T15:53:44.998+00:002016-12-24T15:53:44.998+00:00My tree was did decorated by my six year old son a...My tree was did decorated by my six year old son and now all the baubles from the bottom are on the top due to the dog pinching them. There's needles all over the floor due to enthusiastic wagging if tail also.<br />To top it off I've just been onto the garage to hunt out the 'spare' chairs for boxing day and they have gone mouldy. Hey ho merry Christmas everyone. XAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-86965768335551378652016-12-24T15:53:29.930+00:002016-12-24T15:53:29.930+00:00Don't have time to read the replies, however y...Don't have time to read the replies, however you come back 6 hours later to check that your post has been replied to!! What a joke. Go and be a perfect parent somewhere else. We enjoy being imperfect parents, it makes us a lot more fun to be around, hence why there's thousands who enjoy this blog, but there's only 1 of you. Leighnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-4979452915337403862016-12-24T15:51:51.779+00:002016-12-24T15:51:51.779+00:00Goodness, perhaps santa should bring you some ange...Goodness, perhaps santa should bring you some anger management classes?! How sad that you are berating the people on this blog for supporting each other, I'm lost on how that's a bad thing? Parenting is so difficult, and incredibly lonely at times, it's wonderful and reassuring to know that other people struggle at times too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-24577356026682565722016-12-24T15:41:42.108+00:002016-12-24T15:41:42.108+00:00Troll a LA LA LA. Love it ;) I really needed to re...Troll a LA LA LA. Love it ;) I really needed to read this today. I feel stressed at the thought of tomorrow. Which is just ridiculous. I stuck to a small budget and shopped weeks ago. Have I bought enough? Will the gifts be liked? Etc. At the risk of sounding clichéd I think we have forgotten the true meaning of Christmas. I also discovered this Christmas eve box rubbish today. Whatever next? Too much imagined pressure to be perfect. I have been hiding in the house avoiding going in the direction of shops all week :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1941752338886548224.post-46190228718831070742016-12-24T15:41:05.044+00:002016-12-24T15:41:05.044+00:00Well, given that you have taken the time to read t...Well, given that you have taken the time to read the blog in the first place it's quite contradictory to say you wouldn't read it.<br />People like you are the reason people look online for support, being spiteful for the sake of it is just such a wonderful way to live life, I'll bet you have many friends! <br />Hope your festive baking is as shit as your monochrome house. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com