Saturday 29 March 2014

When Mother's Day is a Hard Day

Every year, there is a big build up to Mother's Day. TV adverts, magazine features, online competitions and general mummy mushiness. Generally, I'm not a massive fan of commercial celebratory days, but hey it's Mother's Day. A day to say Thank You, I Love You and 'what you do doesn't go unnoticed.' 

I have no doubt Sunday will be a lovely day spent with my husband and my boy, our last Mother's Day as a unit of three before Baby Two joins the fold.

But is is also a thoughtful day. And my thoughts will be with everyone for whom the Mother's Day message leaves a slightly knotty tummy, or raises a tearful moment, or prompts nostalgic but sad memories. 

Parents who have lost children. A battle you should never have to face and I am so very sorry if you have. I will be thinking of you.

Children who have lost parents. You don't have the chance to say Thank You or I Love You on any day of the year, and Sunday makes this heartbreakingly obvious. I will be thinking of you.

People who could never have children. The day serves as a reminder of what you always wanted but never got. I will be thinking of you.

People who have difficult relationships with their parents or their children. There may not be any cards or flowers and you may spend the day wishing things were so very different. I will be thinking of you.

On the happiest of days I will be sparing a thought for those who are not able to feel at their happiest. And above all, I will be thinking of my Mum, who I would have spoilt rotten were she still here.

The Unmumsy Mum

10 comments:

  1. Thanks for this post. I'm looking forward to a special day with my Hubby and children but I haven't spoken to my own mother in years and haven't seen her in a very long time. For me the build up is bittersweet, lots of talk of people's Mothers and I find it all hard to deal with x

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    1. Hi Donna, I hope you did have a good day in the end - sure it was difficult in parts. Thanks for reading :-)

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  2. Thank you for sharing this post with us. I lost my mum almost 9 years ago to cancer and it breaks my heart that she never saw me marry and that she'll never meet my children. Thank you for linking up #binkylinky

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    1. Lovely to hear from somebody who truly understands. Mum never saw me marry or start a family either, so very sad. But I am grateful for the time I did have with her. Thanks for reading - I'm having a look at the other binkylinky blogs :-)

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  3. So nice of you to remember the ones who lost a love one. I have to admit that I am so frazzled last Sunday didnt think of them. Thanks for sharing this post. #binkylinky

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  4. These are exactly the same thoughts that run through my head on these days. I feel grateful for every day I get to be a mother to my 18th month old x

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    1. Definitely a day to be thankful. Thanks for reading :-)

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  5. Over the last year, I've met a so many people for whom Mother's Day is a difficult day and it's really lovely to hear them remembered. I know I'm so very lucky to have both my amazing little boy and my wonderful mum.
    Thanks for linking up with #BinkyLinky

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  6. I agree with your sentiments. Sometimes we forget that what is joyous for some may not be for others. Nice post #binkylinky

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